Are you interested in BDSM? I will tell you what it is.

BDSM refers to various kinds of erotic behavior between two or more consenting adults. It encompasses distinct subcultures under which the Terminology for roles varies widely. For instance, “dominant” and “top” are used to refer to partners who are in an active relationship or actively controlling participants. Bottom, on the other hand, is used for partners who are physically receptive or those who are controlled. The interaction that occurs between tops and bottoms is known as power exchange. During such interaction, the bottoms” physical and mental control is completely surrendered to the top. This occurs both in a context of their encounter or in their relationship.

Actions of BDSM takes place often depending on the specific time as agreed upon by both parties. It is referred to as a “play”, “session” or a “scene”. Generally, these periods have a pleasurable effect on the participants. However, sometimes there may be humiliating, restraining and unpleasant circumstances. Explicit sexual activities like sexual penetration may take place in the course of a session, although it is not a basic activity. Such sexual activities are seen only in very rare circumstances for legal purposes and sometimes the rules of playspace ban them completely. The parameters of its legality vary depending on the specific playspace. For instance, some policies allow panties and nipple tapes for women and underwear for men while others allow explicit sexual interaction with complete nudity.

The basic principle is that during BDSM performance, all the parties involved should give informed consent. Mostly, the motto SSC (safe, sane and consensual) is used and has been adopted since 1980s. This implies that everything done should be safe, parties should be sound-minded and they should all give consent. The clear consent of BDSM distinguishes it from other forms of sexual violence and domestic assault. Risk-aware consensual kink (RACK) differs slightly from SSC and is preferred by some BDSM practitioners. RACK emphasizes the style in which every party is individually responsible for their own wellbeing. RACK is based on the principle of “safety of circumstance” whereby activities can be safe or unsafe depending on the specific circumstance. RACK advocates argue that if a discreet line is set between “safe and “not-safe”, participants may at times be endangered on an account of the present rule. RACK, therefore, gives consenting adults an opportunity to evaluate their risks and rewards and take full personal responsibility. Further according to RACK, edge play or higher risk play should be regarded similar to extreme sports with respect and demand that practitioners practice higher risk activities while educating themselves to avoid risk. RACK is therefore based on ensuring that participants have relevant information to ensure that they are always safe.

In a nutshell, BDSM structure is flexible and can allow the participants to withdraw their consent in the course of the scene for instance, by using an earlier agreed upon safeword or safeword symbol. Failure to comply with safeword is regarded a serious offense depending on the law. In some scenes, safewood signifies serious warning rather than explicit consent withdrawal. Some scenes do not use safeword at all. For instance, during “punishment scenes” between masters and their slave couple especially in edgeplay scenes which usually includes rape play, abductions or interrogation. It is sometimes referred to as “consensual nonconsent”. In other scenes, it is difficult to withdwaw consent in the course of the scene. BDSM is therefore dynamic and flexible in nature.